Almost everyone has their heart broken at some stage in this life. Who would argue that it's actually an important part of our development? I mean there are obviously several ways in which a heart can be broken: -

  • The "dumped for someone else" shocker.
Ones which come completely out of the blue and you didn't expect at all. I have had this one on a couple of occasions and I admit they are the hardest I have had to get over. Even if I wasn't quite as close to them as others, it hurt more because it leaves a distinctly bitter taste and the worrying thought of "What is wrong with me that I am not as good as them?".

  • There's the one where they just walked out of your life and said it's over.
Could be completely out of the blue or maybe something has been niggling you for a bit of time? But it's still unexpected non-the-less and can hurt a great deal, especially if you thought it was forever.

  • There's a bereavement.
I don't think this one needs much explaining but I suspect this is the most painful of all.

  • Mutual parting of the ways.
Maybe this is a generalisation, but don't most "first loves" end like this? They certainly do in Neighbours or Home and Away where one of them goes to university in England or Perth or something. There's always a lot of crying but it was inevitable. Actually something similar happened to me, we both went to uni after being together for three years and just drifted apart. And then *poof* it was gone (no I didn't turn gay, the *poof* is like a genie disappearing or something). Still it's so very very difficult to come to terms with being alone, and there is always the wondering of how your ex is getting on.

  • You fall out of love.
No matter how much you want everything to work out, you just know deep inside you can't do it. And day after day you just wish you could break away. It's a thousand little ends in your mind and it's heart breaking in itself. Some people find someone else first just to help with break up, but remember it'll never last!!! (see point 1 ;) )

  • You find your "true" love whilst in a relationship.
Or so you think. God, what do you do now? It was so sudden, how did it happen? I have to break my partners heart!! - yes heart breaking in itself I guess. But I am still a little bit bitter on that subject so I guess I wouldn't truly understand it since it's never happened to me. I think? Actually I think it did once but I picked the option of trying to fix what was wrong with my current relationship! So that's why I'm now single and maybe haven't found my one! Or maybe I have - DOH!

Obviously when you have had your heart broken, it can change the mindset of any person, and it almost always makes the person more wise.  That doesn't necessarily mean they wont do the same thing twice, because sometimes things just feel right when in fact they turn out to be wrong.  But anyways, it is for this reason I was considering setting up a "SingleorwishingIweresingle" group.  This would be a group for anyone who is single and may or may not have had their heart broken.  It is also a group for those who are in a relationship but their wives (or partners or husbands) are nagging them so much they wish sometimes that they were single!  It would also be a group for those who are in a happy relationship but just want to point and laugh at those less fortunate than themselves.  In fact maybe it's a pointless group, but still if I didn't have  these wondrous thoughts I would be very very bored inside this mind of mine.  In fact I would have to dump it ;)

Any more ways to have you heart broken? Any stories people would like to tell?  Feel free to comment! Or just ask me to set up the group (or set it up yourself and add me ;) ) and write a post in there!  Either way I think as morbid as the topic may be it would still be enlightening! And maybe even helpful for those who are going through the shit of having their heart broken.

Ta ra for now!